I’ve spent two weeks sitting in my bed taking notes or reading instead of writing for my startup. Not all this time went to waste, I began researching the phenomena of procrastination and laziness. The alluring temptation to stop working on a new project or give up on building a new habit. This is what I’ve found:
1. The Belief That Doing Something You Love is Easy Is False.
Why should a side hustle be hard if it’s what you love? I once thought.
Many times people give up on their dreams because it gets hard, and we figure maybe we didn’t love it as much as we thought.
“It’s supposed to be hard. If it were easy, everyone would do it. — Jimmy Dugan, A League of Their Own
The second law of Thermodynamics called entropy;
the tendency of all closed systems to drift towards a state of disorder rather than order. In which all aspects of nature abide by this law, including human behavior.
Instead of settling on the expectation that passion and motivation will help see through a project understand the reality of the situation that you are attempting to make different behavior the new norm.
A new habit, a new demanding belief in yourself, and it will require the acceptance of the temptation to stop and allow nature to revert back to procrastination and laziness.
2. “I’m Not Enough” is a living and breathing belief that will devour your mind.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” — Thomas A. Edison
Not only is nature asking you to remain the same but now the emotional environment has chosen its side against you, for now.
This is when behavior matters more than ever, once a goal is set, once a project commences, it is all about what you do. Not what you say, not even what you believe, because only your action at this point has the power to change your belief.
With every thought defeating act the voice that says’s “your not enough”becomes quieter because obviously, per reality and behavior, you are good enough, you’re doing it.
It’s also important to set achievable goals amongst your long-spun goals.I call these “mini wins” for example;
Long-term goal: gain 1,000 followers.
Mini Win: Wake up at 5am every morning and write one article
This mini win will consistently place an individual in the mindset of winning. Every single morning you make the “decision” to get up and behave out of the norm and prove that voice wrong.
5 Daily Reminders
1. You only fail if you quit
2. Everyone’s journey is different
3. Things always get better with time
4. The past cannot be changed
5. Happiness is found within
3. Understanding The Rhythm Of Defying Nature.
After understanding natures resistance and the counter-reaction emotions that accompany. It’s necessary to note the amount of energy sufficient enough to maneuver through this resistance.
Emotionally, physically and mentally it requires A LOT to change human behavior even if it’s for a logically valid reason. Human’s have not yet evolved to make dramatic changes, it’s still the most challenging thing a human can do.
“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself” — Maya Angelou
It’s essential to allow the right amount of rest and “decompression” time to align your self with this new way of being.
Whether the goal is to start a business or get healthier. It still requires a significant change in behavior which reverberates to change a person’s personality significantly.
Hence why I remained in my bed and read books during my time of rest. Continue keeping with “mini wins” but conclude that you need time to align on all fronts to this new way of being.