How Holding Expectations Diminish The Quality of Life
I have no expectations and I’ve never felt this much freedom in my life.
I’m not entirely sure where my writing career will end up, whether my relationship will be forever or who I will be a few months from now. Life has shown me time and again that holding space for desired outcomes is futile; accepting life experiences and opening up to the limitless potential we all carry is much more fulfilling.
Expectations Are Created In Mind And The Mind Has Significant Limits
“All limits are in the mind, and it is only in the mind they can be over come” — Alan Cohen
The brain is ingenious when it comes to planning the next realistic step to achieve a goal; however, it fails at the ability to envision what it has not experienced.
The mind only holds data from the past, all perceived limitations, and possibilities are filtered through past experiences. So it’s safe to say that you can only set expectations within the realm of what’s already been experienced.
Releasing yourself from expectations simultaneously releases one from living by their own perceived limitations. Freeing the individual to dream and create beyond the present and past consciousness.
Expectations Create Pressure
It’s okay to make mistakes, in fact, it’s inevitable.
We are always in the right place at the right time, no modification missed.
Expectations place pressure on an individual to make choices rigidly aligned with the desired outcome. Because now there’s an idea to live up to, a vision to create, and not hitting that purpose would mean failing at life for some people. Resulting in a life spent trying to create something “thought” to result in happiness.
As I suggested previously, these ideas and visions come from a limiting source of information.
Expectations Are More Likely To Create Emotional Problems
“Expectation is the root of all heartache” — William Shakespeare
Binding our sense of fulfillment to a specific outcome, which has multiple variables out of our immediate control, will prove to be devastating.
There is never only one expectation that people place on outcomes; the desired result is usually contingent on a few things turning out in that individuals “perceived” favor. For example;
The expectation of a “happy” relationship — A partner being expected to behave as the “perfect partner,” no arguments, and even the belief that a relationship will last forever.
The truth: You can’t expect someone to behave according to a vision of a relationship. A relationship is between two flawed people with unconditional love. Nothing honestly lasts forever; It’s much more fulfilling to love someone unconditionally and accept the experience of the relationship as a whole.
Holding out the expectation for a circumstantial experience is futile.
The living is about the ups and downs, the magical moments of finding out pieces of who you are through various adventures. It’s not about preconceiving and logically putting together the life you think will make you happy and then spending all the time to create it.
It’s about living in the moment to find out what will make you happy, following the breadcrumbs through trial and error and taking care of yourself to assure your soul is able to consistently point you in the right direction.
You will find that expectation is the logically sound and familiar route of “success” compiled with other peoples opinions, fear, and old social belief systems.
Yet it does not lead to an extraordinary nor unique life, it leads to an imitated version of what everyone else believes you should be.
No regrets…just lessons. No worries…just acceptance. No expectations…just gratitude. Life is too short.