Third, the common outcome
After all the months, maybe years, of building desire from a place of lack. Comparing yourself to images, coming up with hurtful reasons why your still single and counting the flaws you have compared to insta models.
When a relationship comes by it’s almost impossible to keep it afloat with the blinding level of insecurity and high emotional expectations unknowingly placed on partners. It’s hard to give love when there is none to give and neither party feels they deserve it, what’s left to do? Take pictures full of affection and settle for the approval of other’s maybe?
Finally, some food for thought
Affection is a small percentage of what love is about.
It isn’t the land its built on (understanding of ones self), the wood used (trust), the windows (communication) or even the door to get inside (self love). Affection (the couch), intimacy (the fireplace) and memories (pictures on the wall) are all possible once a house is BUILT.
In order to build a strong house you need experience and knowledge. This experience is gained by building your own house first and filling it with the same things for yourself. The knowledge is knowing how to maintain your house, even if your building one with someone else you never permanently leave your own.
There’s a lot of people walking around not understanding why they feel so homeless inside and it’s because no one, including them, have stopped to build this safe place. They’ve used all their material trying to build one for someone else or begging for other people to provide them the material to build one for themselves.
Let’s stop this cycle.