Whether waiting for the opportune time to move forward or waiting to find the right answers before speaking. In a perfect world we’d never have to wait, we’d know exactly how, when and what to do when ever we demand it of ourselves. Our society has taught us that waiting isn’t necessary, we have almost no capacity to delay our gratification and because of this we’ve lost a grip on one of the greatest virtues, patience.
Let’s first look at the difference between waiting and patience:
Waiting — the ACTION of delaying action for one reason or another.
Patience — A virtue (BEHAVIOR of high moral standard) capacity to TOLERATE delay, trouble or suffering.
Waiting is circumstantial where as patience is a behavioral choice that can be met with those circumstances. The level of patience someone has depends on how practiced it is in ones life, just like any tolerance, only over time does it expand.
Someone who is not patient rarely uses this virtue as an answer in waiting. An inpatient person would rather give in to frustration, irritability or anger without noticing how quickly his/her judgment is clouded and risking self sabotaging behavior. It isn’t impossible to learn this virtue no matter how unfamiliar it may be and you can start by implementing these four pointers in everyday life to build up tolerance.
- Staying present when frustration, anger or confusion starts to arise. Many times this is because the over use of logic to the current uncomfortable feeling waiting triggers. Instead realize that between the time period of NOW and DESIRED OUTCOME may be nothing be silence and that is okay.
- Accepting current circumstances as reality. Not to say you are not able to change your circumstances but forcing change from the frustration of thing’s being the same can result in impulsivity.
- Underlying cause of what is making it so hard to stay still mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually. When we are uncomfortable in our current surroundings the blame is not always what we can see. Many times it is what uncomfortable feelings are triggered due to our surroundings. It is important to gage how comfortable you are with just being YOU, undistracted.
- Finding an outlet for mental and emotional frustration. By accepting the reality of a waiting game we now deal with the present uncomfortable emotions or thoughts that can arise. Varying from feeling stagnant to anxious, it’s an important time to find a healthy outlet to release these feelings. This is an opportune time to add a new routine or hobby that will bring longterm benefits.