This is the first time I’ve ever picked up my belongings and relocated more than ten hours away, across the ocean, to a new home. It took months of back and forth and over analyzing if your Virgo you know how well we are able to delay our own progress with our thoughts.
It wasn’t until I walked away from a heartbreak and allowed myself to finally release the relationship did I feel free enough to look outside of my comfort zone. I believe a huge reason it took so long to leave was that I clung to the past and what was familiar to me even though it was painful. My intuition made it crystal clear that it was time to go, these are the signs it’s time to break up with your state and relocate.
1. MOVING WAS AT THE FOREFRONT OF MY MIND
The thought of relocating didn’t pop up only when I was sad, lonely or bored. It was at the forefront of my mind at all times whether I was enjoying a summer night with friends or at home reading. I couldn’t release or remove the desire to leave where I currently was living and there was no equal strength of rationale that made that desire go away.
2. DAYDREAMING ABOUT MY NEW HOME MADE MY HEART FLIP OUT
You know that feeling when your falling in love and there’s butterfly’s in your chest? That was the feeling I have for moving to Hawaii. I’ve lived in Connecticut my whole life, a state known for its ugly winters and boring summers. Hawaii on the other hand, a vacation island, is a totally different environment than I’m used to and although I’ve never lived on an island before I couldn’t shake the butterfly’s calling out to move.
3. I WAS READY TO FALL ON MY FACE
Honestly, I was prepared to move and possibly realize it was a terrible decision to do so. I didn’t care, I was open to any outcome because I knew I was following my heart. Just like deciding to jump in head first and fall in love with someone, relocating isn’t that much different. You have to be all in and ready to learn whatever lesson is offered to you.
At the end of the day, I know what is thrown my way I’m built to handle.
4. MY CURRENT STATE WAS DRAINING ME THE LONGER I STAYED
I couldn’t distract myself with my work and I couldn’t distract myself with play. It seemed as long as I stayed I couldn’t get away from how drained I felt living in this state. When I attempted to deny myself relocation my creativity was blocked, I lost tremendous motivation to do anything and I could see my emotional satisfaction decreasing rapidly.
5. FEAR COULDN’T STOP ME
This was when I knew it was my time to go.
The fear of being without a job, having little prospects, having one check worth of money, my ex and no idea what to do with my financed car. It didn’t stop me, I still was ready to go at any moment the opportunity presented itself I couldn’t believe it as a fussy organizer of the zodiac. However, I was ready to buy three suitcases pack them with all my clothes, park my car somewhere long term, let my landlord know and move on.
7. MY IMPULSIVENESS WAS ON HIGH
Because my intuition knew and I was finally set on board to relocate, my impulsiveness while in my current state started to increase. I wanted more days off from work because the passion drifted from sitting at a computer for eight hours a day. I knew my calling wasn’t to be a medical assistant anymore and I wasn’t going to find my soul path by sitting in a chair all day.
Even though at one point my job brought great emotional satisfaction the hardest part was facing that it no longer gave me the same fulfillment.
8. THE NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF INTENSIFIES
I went raw vegan while waiting for my plane ticket to leave. I wanted to clear my mind, body, and soul and connect with myself on a deeper level. Before making the decision to leave I drifted back and forth between eating healthy and staying active to being lazy and eating shitty. Now that my foot was on the right path and I felt aligned with my intuition I wanted to strengthen the bond with myself and commit to my life wholeheartedly.
Through a majority of my life, I had a very hard time saying goodbye and letting go. I would find myself stuck in toxic behavior patterns because of the resistance to letting anything go in my life. Here I was watching old friends, ex’s and acquaintances leave my life one after another within a short span of time and I was in a constant state of ease/knowing. Yes, some of those goodbyes were painful but after the initial sting, I knew it was for the best and supported many of these splits.
Don’t allow fear to be the decision maker of your life.
10. SELF REFLECTION
Now that I was about to leave I was certain to not bring anything from the past into my new beginning. I had the urge to self-reflect on old patterns and beliefs to refine my mind and the emotional world more. I wanted to heal deeper and begin a chapter in my life that was separate from what I’ve ever experienced.
All of these signs happened very naturally for me and one after another. Not saying that’s the way they need to happen that’s just my personal experience. It changed from wanting to leave all my pain behind to soul searching and finding myself.
I began the healing process in Connecticut and continued it through my stay in Hawaii. I made certain I wasn’t actively running from my problems but instead wanted to face my internal struggles in a place I felt safe in. What I mean by that is my current state was the environment all my trauma took place from childhood to adulthood.
If you resonate with even half of these signs I suggest digging deeper internally and ask yourself whether it is time for you to move on.
Be True To You — Jasmin